Seems my topic has been change lately. I have also received some grief for not surfing, also been told I am not part of the group since I don’t surf as much anymore! Ouch, kinda hurts.But I get it, my friends want me to surf, they want me to surf with them, its fun when you surf with your friends. Besides, I make good comedy when I blow it!
I guess at this point in my life, my priorities are a little different. I am 45 yo, I have one kid, my son who is 9. I know I only have a short window of time to spend with him where he will actually want to spend time with me, so I am taking advantage of that.
I volunteer in his class. Today for example, while the surf will be good and my friends will be out, I will be helping to teach a PE class at 1pm. I coach his Fall Baseball Team, take him to FNL football practice, pick him up from school every day, he got into fishing, so we fish; I take him to his batting coach. Then, I actually try and get some work done. I only seem to be able to work between 9:30 am and 2:30pm, then again at night after 7:30pm. As a Self-Employed Real Estate Appraiser in a shitty economy, I have to take work when it shows up. The first half of the year was the worst in the past 8 years, no orders and nothing but time, but I was on injured reserve, so no surfing. Now, I have so much work I am turning things down.
I am trying to balance stuff, but some thing has to drop down the list, and unfortunately that is surfing. Sure it bums me out, I enjoy surfing with my friends.
I’ll be out when you least expect it. I‘ll be the one that drops in on you, then blows it!
But for now it is different.
For now it is not about me…………….
I like the way your thinking, you have your priorities where they should be. You are investing your time in a lifetime, his life his time, although I know you are not doing it alone, it helps have a great partner. I don't know if I have ever known better parents than you two. Please let me know if you can make your plans to come back to Hawaii for Easter time, would be great hanging with you three again.
ReplyDeleteMahalo for playing ball with Misty and be a good friend of Betty's, I appreciate it...
Keep up the blogging, maybe I'll have to update my posts too....aloha your friend Jeff.
Just read my post: corrections:" his life, his time,"
ReplyDelete"it helps to have a great partner"
"and being a good friend"
MAYBE NEXT TIME I'LL EDIT BEFORE POSTING! HEHEHEH
It is about our kids right now. I, like you, know that the time with my 9 year old is precious and fleeting. So I give him as much of myself as I can. It sounds like you are doing the same thing. Your friends will have to survive without your hilarious wipeouts for now. Stay the course and keep enjoying your kid.
ReplyDeleteFamily First! That is why Now is my time. Most of my kids are grown. So I took up surfing at the ripe old age of 43!
ReplyDeleteSurf will always be there..but the time with your son at this age... will not. GOOD CHANGE IN PRIORITIES my friend! Keep on blogging regardless!